Can we have it all? Conquer your goals and effectively organize your calendar

I always knew that I wanted to be a mother, from a very young age I knew that at some point in my life I wanted to get married and have children but first I wanted to grow and develop professionally. Follow the step-by-step that Society tells us that we must follow to be successful, study, work, earn money, buy our house, have our family, etc.

Although all my life I had the intention of starting my own business, I finally got the guts to make it happen, and my mindset shifted firmly toward this idea. when I had my first baby.

So as I mentioned this idea of being a mom was something that I always wanted I loved the idea of ​​having a family by myself, I am a great believer in the law of attraction, and I believe 100% that everything that has come into my life has been attracted by myself. I have asked the universe and it has been granted.

When I had my first child, I enjoyed the first 5 months with him, and I decided to go back to work because I felt the need to continue growing professionally, at that time I worked as a marketing coordinator and my boss was always a sweetheart, so 5 months after having my first baby I came back to work.

And if you are a mother, you will understand this, I began to feel that something was not right, even if I only worked two days, something was not right, when I was at work, I missed my son and I felt immensely guilty for not being with him. I felt that I was losing every second of his growth, I did not want to miss anything at all, he was my everything to me, and I could not put my focus on anything else. So, I worked for approximately two months and decided to resign and I decided to give myself a second chance and develop my business again. So I could work from home but work at my own pace, be with my baby all the time, grow professionally, be a super mom, feel good physically, and feel complete and happy I wanted EVERYTHING! so without thinking about it anymore and headlong, I started the business, my husband seeing my work and the type of business I was building, make him want to get involved, and be part of it (having a business with your partner is not easy at all but this is a topic for another day).

When you have your own business, and you have small children, when I say small, I mean from newborns to 10 years old because it is the neediest and most demanding time, and you work from home, many things go from being permanent to changing all the time. As your children get older, your routine changes and your priorities change.

Today many mothers want to undertake and start their own business to have more time flexibility, to spend more time with their children, creating something that they like, and that they are passionate about, but the mental barriers that we put in ourselves and some of the most limiting beliefs that we start having, are:

I don’t have enough time, my son consumes all my time, I’m completely tired, I don’t have energy, I don’t have money, to start a business, I need to know a lot about technology, and I don’t think I can learn it.

I call it mental barriers and/or limiting beliefs, although I know what it’s like to have two young children, because now I have two, 😊 and they are the greatest thing in my life. I know what it is to be completely exhausted, and tired, I know what it is not to be able to sleep, not be able to rest even for 3 hours when you have newborns. I know what it’s like to stay up late when they get sick and not be able to sleep for nights, and I know what it’s like to have them on top of you all the time without giving you a minute to Rest. I know and you as moms know it too, we can sooo relate to that.

So starting my business at some point this had become my routine and I felt stuck, frustrated, sad, and without motivation. Such was my daily confusion when seeing myself like this, that many questions went through my head, and I came to tell myself, how ungrateful I am because although I have everything I have, I am not happy, I felt guilty for having those feelings and I didn’t understand what was wrong with me.

After analyzing myself, and understanding my path, I realized that not having a motivation beyond my children, a motivation only for me, to continue growing, to feed my mind, to feel happy with myself, to feel productive, and not to feel stagnant was one of the most important things to feel fulfilled and complete, to be happy and also to have the strength and enthusiasm to give my best to my family.

So, first I Acknowledge the fact that I needed to do my thing, my business not only for my kids but for me, and then I started thinking not only about money but about what makes me happy, what kind of business I want to develop that give me that fulfillment, that happiness, that freedom, that enthusiasm. And here I am going to explain something really quick, my current business is international education I have an agency that helps international students to travel worldwide to make their studies in different institutions in Australia. Is it my dream business? Mmm No, does it give me money? Yes, Am I happy doing it? Yes and No. I like helping my customers but after internalizing what I really want to do, it is to get more involved in digital businesses, I light up when I talk to other entrepreneurs that are involved with digital, I love to share the challenges, I love the stories, I love to have a great system, I love to interact and to talk about my challenges as a mom and an entrepreneur to help other mompreneurs and entrepreneurs to get on track with their journey and I can see the difference when I am working in my first business I kind of want to finish everything quickly and go and rest but when I am working in Digital Mompreneurs – that is the name of my digital business I can stay up till very late at night and I wish I have more hours to keep working but I need to sleep right? 😊 but honestly sometimes I just do not want to stop.

So, do I believe we can have it all? YES, we absolutely can, but to do that we need to get to know ourselves on a deep level, differentiate what is it that we need to do to be ok for our family and what is it we really want to do for us, to do something that lights us up every single day.

Also, I found that one of the most overwhelming things that we moms have to face every single day when building a business is all the stages we have to go through. There are lots of changes in our lives in a very short period of time. I understood that it is very important to be ok with the fact that life is changing, to be okay with the fact that our days can vary, and this is very important because we do not want to keep that stress every single day in our lives, right? It will be too much, we want to keep a balance so we can keep being content and keep our joy up when having things “under control” and being ok when actually we cannot control them, but we learn how to go with the flow stress-free.

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 Then I also understood that even though my days change all the time, that does not necessarily mean that everything will be messy, the key here is to learn to manage time, and have a structure that is the basis of your ideal week, so every time there is a change, you can easily manage it because then you know exactly what your next step is. I cannot express in words the peace of mind that having a routine and a set schedule for everything gives you.

So if you are still wondering if you can have it all, the answer is YES,  you can have it all, be a present mom, be an entrepreneur, grow professionally, have a stable and calm relationship, dedicate time to yourself, dedicate time to your family and your social circle.

It is a matter of organization, of removing those mental barriers that accompany us all the time. It is not about being happy 365 days a year, it is about finding a balance in your life as things change, knowing how to handle changes, learning to adapt, feeling calm, having permanent peace of mind, and feeling fulfilled.

STEP # 1

These are the 6 things you should keep in mind to achieve that peace of mind by conquering each of your goals.

• Be realistic with your time, don’t make a huge list of things to do when your time is really limited.

• Apply this tag to your to-do list: Priority, Important, not so important

• Work on yourself and make your mental care your No. 1 priority.

• Be honest with yourself about what you want to do in your life, as a person and as a professional, what is it that fulfills you that you want to do, give life to your ideas, and believe in yourself.

• Write exactly what you want to achieve in every aspect of your life, with your children, with your partner, with your profession, with your home, with your social life, etc.

• Organize your calendar realistically

And the latter Organizing your Calendar Realistically is the key to achieving everything that you have considered in the previous points:

It’s time to organize your calendar and give it a 360-degree turn so that it is functional and realistic and most importantly gives you peace of mind and tranquility.

STEP # 2

Follow these tips to effectively organize your calendar:

• Find the exact time your day starts and the exact time it ends, so that you have appropriate Rest hours, it is imperative that you rest enough because this will help you to be energized the next day and enjoy your day.

• Write the routine hours with your children, morning, afternoon, and night, where you will do nothing but be with your children and with your partner or family.

• Write the exact work schedule, what time you start and what time you finish, and here is an additional thing that will help you have more peace of mind, before starting have a 10-minute routine to prepare your mind for the activity you are going to I mean, prepare your coffee, have your books ready, turn on your computer calmly, see that you are comfortable to start, and also when you finish working, take 10 minutes to close everything, read something you like, take your time to close that working day doing something you like, watch a video, watch an episode of a series that you like, read a book. Something that takes you out of the “work” mental state and puts you in another type of mindset, will help you heaps to continue with your day with peace of mind.

• Write the schedules to spend time with your family

• Write the hours you want to dedicate to yourself

• Write the hours in which you will be doing things around the house, including cooking hours.

Now look at your calendar and after putting in all the necessary schedules, check which schedules are still empty and what is real-time available that you have to include other things, such as starting your business, studying something, doing a hobby, including what you really want to do but because you had the belief of “I don’t have enough time” you had not achieved it until now.

Here download a Calendar Canvas, so you can start working on your ideal Calendar, also find there an example of how I put your routine in perspective, my routine is changing but it is an example that I hope will help you as a guide and you also have an empty calendar so that you can put your activities according to the parameters that I mention here.

One more thing to end this chapter, remember: I can’t do it, I don’t have time, I don’t know how to do it, it’s very difficult for me, I’m tired, I’m burnt out, I’m exhausted, I’m not going to make it, all this is in your mind, remember that your mind believes what you tell it, so it’s time to change these phrases and start telling us the opposite: I can do it, I have the time I just have to organize it, I can learn how to do it, it’s not difficult, I have energy, I know how to treat myself to have a good rest. Do things with intention and you will see how everything starts to happen.

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